Since Americans spend about 30 percent of their lives at work, it comes as no surprise that on-the-job affairs occur. In addition to regularly scheduled hours at work, some companies offer extra-curricular activities to their employees in an effort to boost morale and encourage face-to-face interaction.
One company even created a “no email” Friday policy in which employees are forced to call and/or visit one another (in-person) to correspond about business matters. It comes as no surprise that this “forced” interaction between co-workers can sometimes lead to some on- and off-the-job interactions.
Here are four signs to look for in an on-the-job cheating spouse, according to CheatSheet.com:
1. Your partner has been working later hours
Working later hours is a classic cover up for a partner who’s having an affair. It’s important to note that this is not a sure sign that your partner is having an affair with a co-worker; you know your partner and their work habits better than anyone. The biggest telltale sign that something is going on with someone at work is that after years of them coming home at a certain hour, they now work late for no discernible reason — it’s perfectly normal to be suspicious of this behavior. Do consider though if your partner has a new job or has just been promoted — it’s important that you take those factors into consideration. Work-related excuses are a clever way to account for blocks of time that are spent doing some not-so-nice things with a co-worker. Just remember: If there are strange changes and your intuition kicks in, trust it.
2. He or she frequently travels for business
Honestly, just because your partner travels for business does not mean that your partner is cheating; it’s only if he or she loses touch with you when they’re away or are not accountable for where they are when you speak to them, then something might be up.
When your partner is away, they may have more free time after business hours or feel that they’re on vacation, and don’t feel as accountable for their actions. This may give them time to explore a potential affair or act on their feelings if they’ve traveled with this co-worker.
3. Your significant other isn’t confiding in you as much
If you’ve been noticing that your partner is less emotionally open lately or not as talkative as usual, it may be because he or she is sharing their issues with someone else, like a co-worker. Dr. Tammy Nelson, PhD and couples therapist, writes in Your Tango that your partner may have created a unique intimacy with another person, and has cut you out at home, “essentially creating a bond with [their] new friend to the exclusion [of you].”
4. Noticeable change in attitude when co-workers are mentioned
Depending upon your intuition and how good you are at personally noticing things, if you enter into a conversation with your partner and the name of the person whom they’re having an affair with comes up in conversation, your partner may have a small but noticeable to it. It may give them an adrenaline rush to hear the person’s name. On the other hand, your significant other may avoid talking about the other person. For instance, if they’re working together on a work project but your partner doesn’t mention his or her name, it’s a potential red flag, especially if your partner is spending a lot of time with this person.