Fancesca Harrall was 25, she realized she was truly bisexual. She was also married. She had many self conflicts when the taught of telling him crossed her mind. The uncertainty withheld her confession.
Being bisexual did not mean she wanted to leave her husband for a female, neither did it mean she wanted a threesome involving another woman. However, that is what most people think when it comes to bisexuals.
She claims, “I’m still monogamous, faithful and I’m very much still bisexual, and it just so happens I’m married to a man… I basically wanted my relationship to stay exactly as it is now — except with the truth out in the open, of course.”
She did not know who things would end; therefore, she constantly debated with herself.
For the first five year of their, she was a heterosexual woman. She always loved her husband, but somehow she became sexually attracted to women. She said, “He’s the most incredible human being I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing; he really is the most grounded, open-minded, accepting person I’ve ever met, but part of me thought it was a real possibility that if he found out I was bisexual, that he’d turn on me, we’d drift apart, and our amazing relationship would become just a memory.”
One day, she built her confidence and realized that she had to tell the truth — right then. She declares, “I guess so many months of having this heavy on my mind made it so the pain of keeping it a secret became worse than the potential outcome if I came clean.”
On that day, they had lunch. “I am bisexual” on the tip of her tongue along with my bacon sandwich but it just wouldn’t come out. Although things did not go as planned, she had another way of confessing. She sent him a message on Facebook when he was in the next room.
She was beyond nervous, she was uptight and timid. She held her breath waiting on a response.
Surprisingly, he to walk up to her not saying a word, wrapping his arms around her and hugging me for a good minute in silence. It seemed he was relieved too.
He told her he was proud of her for having the courage to come out and that he was so happy that he got the chance to know another little part of his wife. Not once was he judgmental. In the end, he did none of the things she expected, but he did all the positive things she was hoping for.